We begin phase two of the RADAR process with Awareness. We now realize what it is we want to change, to shed, to replace, in order to reveal who we really are, and chose yesterday (if you started prior to that). If you’re just starting, do not fear, you can shorten the times in the previous phase and catch up easily.
In this phase we watch and observe how and when we use our targeted behavior. It’s natural to think, ‘If I can recognize when I’m doing it, why not just change immediately?’ I think the danger in this is that it’s too easy to slide back into previous patterns, and thus one quick victory is lost as time drags on and more opportunities are missed. I also think if you don’t become aware of the how and when, you won’t see the best why, and the why is what we are after. Why do we do this? Because then our strategy to replace or drop the behavior (though I think all behaviors, or at least most, must be replaced with something else – almost like a scientific equation: Behavior can neither be created nor destroyed, it can only be replaced by another behavior) will become clear.
In other words, you are always doing something with your time, even if you’re doing nothing. (You’ll find upon deeper examination that you’re not really doing nothing. In this case, nothing, breathing, thinking, meditating, sleeping – is still something.)
May God guide you to become aware of each moment, and fill it with joy,
In sports they call it Selection Sunday. We are at that same juncture in this season if we are following along with the RADAR process. We have come up with a list of things we would like to address, and want to choose one to focus on. Just one. There’s no need to overdo it or attempt to do too much.
I think it’s common to have this image of ourselves where we think we are infinitely malleable, able to change how we act in an instant and it will be permanent. Kind of like waking up at 50 and hearing your body tell you it’s not 25 anymore. It’s a rude awakening, for sure!
I’m going to listen today, just be quiet and listen, to understand what I should focus on, and make the choice tonight. (If I’m not rushing it, I’m not rushing it!) Or is that procrastination? Am I putting it off, delaying the inevitable? For what?
It amazes me when I wait before doing something and learn something valuable. Usually when I don’t wait, I also learn something valuable, but the lesson is painful, and sometimes expensive. The reason? Had I waited, new information would have changed my decision, of course.
Free day? No. But I will be resting. Resting and listening.
May God guide your choice, and fill you with peace.
I know the titles to these posts are unoriginal, probably seo-unfriendly, but that’s just the point. In an anti- attitude, I’m not interested in drawing attention to this with some flashy headline. This is a time for reflection, a time for quiet. So if you wonder why the post times are always different, it’s because I’m walking though the time as it happens, not ahead of time and scheduled. That would defeat the purpose.
We’ve reached the last day of the opening half week, before a traditional free day, before our reflecting on the first phase of the process. If you don’t count Sundays, then this is 10% of the way in. It’s normal to think, ‘What have I done so far?’ But that’s a question for tomorrow. For today, we continue to rest in God, considering those things that have been revealed to us that we need to become more aware of in our daily lives.
Is something already clear to you? If so, let it simmer, as the longer you think about it, the more ideas will come to you as to how to address it; or the deeper you’ll go into uncovering just what it is that’s at the root of the behavior. I have several things I’m considering, and will let them weigh against each other until tomorrow, when it will be time to make a choice and move forward into phase two.
May God’s love bring you joy,
Still thinking, still considering, still realizing that I can dig deeper to uncover what I need to change. I remained silent long enough to come to a new understanding in one endeavor, and that served me better than speaking before I knew the true dynamics of the situation. Amazing. And yet we rush around thinking the more we do the better we’ll be, the more we say the smarter we’ll appear; but it doesn’t seem to work that way.
So I’m still working on realizing what it is I need to shed, or change. But I notice that the more I rest in that realization period, the more I observe what I am doing or how I am presenting myself, that I am adjusting my behavior. It might be something subtle, (and certainly didn’t include the two filled doughnuts), it might even be unconscious on my part, but it does take place.
I think realization and awareness are closely linked. They overlap to some degree, though I want to explore the awareness phase in more detail beginning Monday. It’s difficult in this day to not feel the need to accomplish, to get to a finish line. Only when you realize that we all have the same finish line does that need to race to it begin to diminish. Only then do you begin to feel the true joy of the current moment.
Discernment. I think that can be a tricky word, tricky in the sense that we can fool ourselves. Still, waiting can sometimes clarify not only God’s intentions, but our own. Time reveals new information, exposes bad assumptions; it can make us appear foolish or wise. I’m considering my list for this Lent, not acting yet, still considering. There are several items on it, and I am examining them to see how they reflect who I am. Are they accurate? Is there something that reflects who I am that I’m not willing to accept?
In some cases we may think, “That’s not really who I am,” denying the fact that yes, it is, but it is not who I want to be, because it doesn’t reflect something deeper inside me. It has covered the real me up for one reason or another.
Realization. We are on the first step of the RADAR process, and can see how discernment helps us to understand and realize the true nature of what we want to shed from ourselves. So if you are thinking, “I need to lose weight,” the deeper realization might come when you ask, “What am I doing that is putting weight on me? Why am I doing it?” This takes you to the core, the root, that no diet plan can address.
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